Saturday, February 6, 2016

SLP Love Hurts



I'm linking up with my frenzied SLP friends to share with you a story about one of my first challenging students.  I was employed in a special education school that consisted mostly of preschoolers, but had one class of students that had students up to age 14. After 7 years of working with preschoolers, I was assigned to this class.  The last therapist who worked in the room had resigned after working with one student who bit and kicked her. I hate to admit it, but I was terrified to even step foot into that room.

My first day was spent observing the class, seeing how it was run, the types of activities I could help the teachers modify, and seeing the children communicate and how they functioned. The second day I began working with the students. One student, I'll call him Ben, was nonverbal, and had a tendency to be violent. I took a deep breath, sat down, and placed a coloring sheet and crayons on the desk in front of him.  The crayons and worksheet went flying across the room before I had a chance to say hello.  As I stood to retrieve the items, the desk was turned over, and Ben began to screech.  Loudly. Nonstop.  For the next half hour. Nothing I did, nothing the teacher or assistant in the room did seemed to help.  After that half hour, I ran out and locked myself in the staff bathroom and cried. I couldn't deal with that all year!

One of my friends and colleagues in the school was a wonderful Occupational Therapist.  She worked with Ben for several years, and when I came out of the bathroom and heard Ben still screaming, she was waiting for me.  We sat and talked about Ben, and she told me several things I could do when I worked with him that could potentially assist me in keeping him calm.  She came in and sat with me for the rest of the week, and there were no further incidents.  The following week, my sessions were not perfect, but Ben and I were starting to bond.  He slowly began to trust me and we were able to work together well.  Believe me, not every session went well, but he never ever tried to bite me, and when he became physical, it was never directed toward me.  Without the advice of my colleague, I never would have known to keep a hand on him at all times, give sensory breaks, and just remain calm.  After that year, I wound up pursuing another job, but I still remember Ben.  I found out a couple of years later that he passed away.  I think of him often: he taught me patience, and that building a bond with each student is so important. He is my little angel sitting on my shoulder, especially when I am in challenging situations.  And my OT friend, she taught me that collaboration is key, especially in these situations.



Wednesday, January 13, 2016

Winter Language Freebie

With the colder weather finally coming, I’ve pulled out my winter resources.  This is an oldie but goodie.  I use this with a wide variety of ages.  It’s in black and white and minimal prep for one of the activities.  I hope you can use this in your speech room!  Click on the title photo to go to TPT to download this freebie.  Enjoy!



Here’s a look at what’s inside:




Tuesday, January 12, 2016

The #1 Reason You Don't Get What You Want, and What You Can Do To Get It

Today I would like to share with you a post about the main reason why SLPs don't get what we want, and some strategies on how to change that from guest blogger Dr, Karen Dudek-Brannan, Ed.D, CCC-SLP:




The #1 reason you don’t get what you want, and what you can do to get it. Raise your hand if you’ve experienced any of the following: Your groups of students start late because you have to spend an extra ten minutes rounding them up. Your coworkers forget to inform you when your students are going to miss speech sessions due to special events. You have a tiny cramped space for therapy, despite the fact that there are other rooms available for other professionals who spend less time in the building than you. No one bothers to invite you to collaboration sessions for students you are seeing, even when you are the case manager. You don’t get invited out to lunch with the grade level or department staff because you are your own little department and no one knows what to do with you. You bend over backwards to accommodate everyone else’s schedules and constantly switch things around to make people happy. You end up doing case manager duties for other teachers because they don’t know how to do it, so they just expect you’ll pick up the slack. Seriously, is the world out to get us?

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It’s easy complain about the fact that we as SLPs are underutilized, unappreciated, and overworked. Sometimes you just want people to throw you a bone, remember to send their kids to speech, ask for your input while still pulling their own weight…and just think about including you in things! You may believe that the people you work with are just trying to make your life miserable, but there may be another reason. It may be because you simply haven’t asked for what you want. In their book, The Aladdin Factor, Jack Canfield and Mark Victor Hansen wrote about why we fail to do this without even realizing. We have become so out of touch with how we’re feeling we don’t know what we want. Or if we do, we don’t know how to ask. We’ve witnessed so many passive-aggressive behaviors we’ve learned to beat around the bush instead of coming out and asking for things. Sometimes we’re afraid that we will be rejected, so we don’t even bother putting ourselves out there. In our minds it’s better to avoid being vulnerable, even though it guarantees that our situation won’t change. There are other times when we’re just too proud to admit we need help or that we’re struggling. We chose this field because we like to take care of people. We like to feel needed and want to show everyone that we can tough it out. So much, in fact, that we take extra work on to help others, when instead we should be asking them to help or at least do their fair share. It’s time to change this. So rub the magic lamp, summon the genie, start asking for what you want…and maybe…just maybe…you will get it.
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Let’s clear some common stumbling blocks and find some techniques to overcome them. Here’s what you can do:
1. Ask yourself what you really want. If you aren’t sure what you want, you won’t know what to ask, so get clear about this. Do you want the teachers to remember to tell your students to come to speech without you having to walk down to get them? Do you want the students to remember? Do you want your administrators to let other staff know they need to include you in collaborative discussions for academic concerns, or would you rather have teachers email you to see if you are needed? Do you just want people to invite you to social gatherings so you can feel like a part of the community? Knowing the answer to some of these questions will help you to determine who to ask, and what you will ask them.
2. Stop assuming people can read your mind. Chances are, few people realize that you are still fuming about being left off that last email. Nor do they realize how cramped your sessions are, or how difficult it is to run your schedule. They are too busy worrying about what they need to do. Think about it this way-how many times has someone close to you (e.g., spouse, sibling, parent, child, friend) done something that bothered you without realizing it. Or how many times have you been the perpetrator? So is it really fair to assume your coworkers, who aren’t as close to you, know exactly what bothers you? Chances are, people will be willing to help you if you just ask. Sure, there are some teachers who will forget about their students’ speech sessions no matter how many times you remind them, or others who don’t value what you do, but not as many as you think. There are others that would be happy to oblige, but just don’t realize it’s what you want (because they’re used to you just coming to get your students). Just having a couple teachers help you out may make your life a lot easier.
3. Determine the best and worst possible outcome of asking. Sometimes we don’t ask because we are afraid of what will happen if we do. It’s time to start challenging our assumptions about the possible outcomes and realize they aren’t so scary. One year, I was in the K-3 building all day five days a week in a cramped office. The occupational therapist was there one day a week for a couple hours, and she had an office twice the size. It was an oversite that had been overlooked, yet I would get angry every time I walked past that huge office not being used. At the end of the year, I just came out and asked my building administrator if I could move. The worst possible thing she could’ve said would’ve been, “No”, and nothing would have changed, which I could have handled because I was already dealing with it. The best case scenario would have been a “Yes”, and a bigger office. If the worst case scenario was the current situation, and the best possible outcome was an improvement, what did I have to lose? Especially when not asking almost guaranteed that nothing would change. Oh, by the way, I got the new office.
4. Ask the right person. This one seems obvious, yet we fail to do it. Like when you blame person at baggage claim for your missing luggage and demand they find it ASAP (when it’s in another state). This past year, I’ve had a student with a communication device on my caseload. After several sessions in a row, I noticed that his device was nowhere to be found. I asked one of the teaching assistants about it, and she said she had no idea where it was and hadn’t seen it all week. I resisted the urge to explode, but gave her a mini-lecture about why he needed to have with him all the time. Her response was, “They don’t tell me anything, I just do what I’m asked!” I should have been going to the case manager, so I planned a meeting for the teacher and all of the assistants so that I could train the right people and be specific about what they need to do (just telling the staff “He needs to use the device,” and shoving it at them wasn’t cutting it). Doing one training won’t guarantee a change overnight. It takes work and persistence. Even when we ask the right people, we still have to accept that they may not have the ability or willingness to do what we ask. But we can increase our odds by being mindful of who we ask for what.
5. Be specific. Failing to articulate your desired outcome is a recipe for disaster. You know how we tell teachers to stop using negative language with our students? We tell them to say, “Walk quietly in the halls,” instead of “Stop running!” Or when we tell our students that they are not using specific language to explain what they want? We need to practice what we preach! Ever had someone give you a laundry list of complaints, but no potential solutions? Or had someone mumble and groan, leaving you to guess why they’re upset? It’s really annoying, right? Don’t expect people to fill in the blanks. Do you want the IEP team to fill out their paperwork by a certain date so you aren’t scrambling at the last minute? Then don’t say, “Um, I think we need to start getting our paperwork done for that meeting…have you looked at it yet?” Instead say, “I would like to print those forms by Tuesday afternoon. Thank you in advance for completing your sections by then.” Want the IEP case manager to stop dumping their responsibilities on you? Don’t just pick up the slack and leave them subtle hints hoping they’ll catch on (I’ve tried nonchalantly printing out the IEP conference notice for them and putting it in their mailbox, and it doesn’t work). Instead, say “I see Billy’s IEP meeting is due in a few weeks. Here are some times I’m available, can you let me know when you’ve scheduled it?” And then stop doing their job for them. If needed, talk to your administrator about training case managers (see #4 “Ask the right person.”). Do you still feel uneasy about this? Are you still worried that you won’t know what to say, or think you aren’t confident enough to tackle some of your issues head-on? Don’t worry. Confidence is a skill. Asking is a skill. Communication is a skill. Because they are all skills, that means they can get better. And believe me, you already have what you need to succeed at this. Even if you’ve never been good at confrontation, now is the time to change that. Always remember, “Ask and it shall be given.”

cropped-Karen2.jpgDr. Karen Dudek-Brannan, Ed.D. CCC-SLP, has been a practicing speech language pathologist over 10 years, and has worked in the schools and medical settings with adults and children, has supervised clinical students, and has taught college courses in Special Education and Communication Sciences and Disorders. She currently works in the school systems and runs Dr. Karen Speech and Language, a website with innovative resources for treating language disorders with an emphasis on metacognition. Find out more about how you can improve treatment outcomes by writing goals with a metalinguistic focus and get a free goal writing cheat sheet here.

Thanks Karen!

Wednesday, January 6, 2016

I'll try....




When you look in the mirror, how do you feel?  Confident?  Insecure?  Somewhere in between?  I've always been very insecure, and part of that is seen by how infrequently I post here.  That little voice inside my head always asks if people really want to read what I am thinking about, prepping for my speech students, a new therapy technique I've tried and loved, new materials I think are amazing.... You get the point.

I'm not confident.  It reflects in the way I walk around my school, how I interact with staff members, new people I meet, and even in meetings.  I dislike this about me, but I have always resigned myself to the fact that it is something that can't be changed.


But....I'm going to try.  I'm going to make that little voice inside my head say more positive things to me.  It may take a while, but I'm hoping I can make this happen.  It's something I've been thinking about for a while and today, while driving to work, the DJs on the radio were talking about this.  I flip stations a lot, but in the mornings, I like to listen to Elvis Duran and the Morning Show. Their fun show makes me start each day with a smile.  Today, Elvis and his cohosts were talking about what their inner voices said and it really hit home.  All of the negative self-talk needs to stop.  I want people to perceive me as confident, knowledgeable, sincere, and an expert in my field.  After 20 years and countless PD hours, I can honestly say that I know I do my job well, and I want others to see it.  And with an observation coming up in two weeks, I need my new director to see it as well!  

In the words of Stuart Smalley, (look up Stuart Smalley from Saturday Night Live if you don't know who he is, I can't post a video link, as it is copyright protected by NBC) "I'm good enough, I'm smart enough, and doggone it, people like me!"  LOL!



Sunday, November 8, 2015

Thankful


I'm thrilled to be participating in the Frenzied SLPs Thankful blog hop/scavenger hunt!  I've been so busy, that it's been difficult to stay in touch with everyone, but I'm going to try to be more active!



The Frenzied SLPs are bringing you a scavenger hunt style blog hop where we will share our thankful and grateful stories while inviting you to participate in our giveaway. Three lucky winners will be chosen to each receive a $10 Teachers Pay Teachers gift card and a $10 Starbucks gift card. Here is how you can participate. 
1. Read each Thankful and Grateful post from The Frenzied SLPs! 
2. Collect the character at the bottom of each post. 
3.  Don't forget to write down the characers in order to reveal the secret phrase. 
4. Enter the Rafflecopter at the end of any post by entering the phrase. 
5. Visit The Frenzied SLPs Facebook Page for an extra entry. https://www.facebook.com/thefrenziedSLPs/
6. Three winners will be chosen after the rafflecopter closes on 11/13/2015. 


Being busy means work, work, work!  But the plus side of it is that I have some absolutely amazing children I get to see each week.  I'm so thankful for them, they make all of the paperwork, evaluations, meetings, and more paperwork worth it!  I'm not driving around as much this year, which I am definitely happy about.  I now work in four schools and have two home care students.  Last year I had 10 home care students and three schools.

I'm thankful for my fellow bloggers.  When I first started my store and blogging a few years ago, I don't think I would have stayed around too long without them, but through establishing wonderful online connections, I feel like they are part of my extended family!  Some of my bestie bloggers include Jenn from Straight Up Speech, Mia from Putting Words in Your Mouth, Kelly from Speech2U, Lynda from Say What with LyndaSLP123, Rachel from Queen Speech, and Tracy from GoldCountrySLP.  There are many others too who motivate me every day and help me to be the best SLP I can be.  I'm also thankful for all of our readers and buyers!  Without all of you, I wouldn't be inspired to create!


My husband.  What can I say?  His humorous personality has kept me laughing for 19 years!  I couldn't live without him.  He supports my decisions, good and bad, and doesn't say "I told you so."  He is definitely an optimist, which I need, because lately I've been a "the glass is half empty" kinda girl.  I'm trying to get over this bump, especially because of our kids.  This man keeps me going, he is my rock, and I am so fortunate to have him!  My home is filled with laughter and love, and for that, I am grateful.


And on that note.....  My little loves!  For them I am definitely most thankful.  My life has not been the same since I became a mom more than 8 years ago.  I'm definitely more tired and harried, but love almost every minute of it.  I never would have thought I'd be a soccer mom and a dance mom, but I love watching my kids participate in their activities, and watching them grow has been amazing!  I'm truly blessed, and I love my crazy life with my little family!  

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Wednesday, June 10, 2015

Speechie Freebies: Parent Note

It's been a crazy couple of months!  Not only did I begin working at another school part time, in addition to my school district position and home care, but with the end of the year coming, I feel like I am always rushing to get everything I need done accomplished!

Anyway, at the new school, I am a contractor, so I only get paid for the time I see students.  I see students back to back, and don't have time to find and write in the notebooks tha the teachers send home daily.  I started just writing notes on large lined post-it notes, but it was too sloppy looking, and I didn't think it looked very professional.  I created this note to help me communicate better with the parents at this school.  I hope you can use it too!  Click on the picture to download.


Friday, May 1, 2015

Speechie Freebies: Play dough Placemats

I am so excited to be blogging over at Speechie Freebies today!

I have been working on this product for months!  It's still unfinished, but I'm posting one phoneme for you today!


So many of my students can't sit still for drill work.  I have recently picked up a whole bunch of preschoolers, and they always love play dough.  I wanted to make activities for them that would be fun and functional, incorprating their speech sounds, as well as language skills.



You can download them here!  And be on the lookout in the next couple of weeks for more of these!  Enjoy!